Emotions constitute a great portion of our personality. It is what defines us. If not externally, but definitely on a sub-conscious level. Let’s say for example, you have a huge scene going on at home, and you burst on your junior at the workplace. He might not have a clue as to what happened. And while you might feel utterly disappointed with your behaviour once you are calm, the damage is already done. Sometimes it’s manageable, while at other times it tarnishes your image to a great extent.
Why you may ask? As you have already apologized! There are two scenarios which I believe it might lead to.
Scenario 1- The subordinate who had a higher respect for you before, might not feel the same way anymore. He might even try to spread the word of your behaviour and people begin to judge you, just because of the way you enacted on the spur of the moment.
Scenario 2- If your subordinate has confidence issues, it might even put him more into the shell. There are many people in the world who might appear as confident individuals, but have some or the other sort of confidence issues. Read here if you want to know how to amp your confidence levels. Would you that to happen? Definitely no.
You must have definitely gauzed the impact of the two scenarios. And alarmingly, neither of them breeds a healthy environment. Worse still, imagine scenarios that might happen if you replace your junior with a senior at work.
We all go through emotional turmoil at some point or the other in our lives. Instead of letting it control us, we should channelize it until we overcome it. Here’s a quick guide on how to tame that giant in your heart playing havoc all over your head.
1. Take a Break – However cliche it might sound, you should try to take a break if possible. Try to keep it minimal, we wouldn’t want to land up bring in depression. The duration of break depends solely on you. You are the best judge. Whether it’s 10 mins for a work stress turmoil or 1 day for bigger issues, you can judge it better.
2. Prevention Is Better Than Cure – Keeping aside unforeseen circumstances, most small emotional upheaval is caused by uncertain amount of stress and anxiety; which in turn can be eased and minimised before it strikes a bigger blow. For this, you should dedicate certain amount of time for yourself every single day. Self care is immensely therapeutic and nurturing. To know why self care is imperative, read here.
3. Focus on the Brighter side – Things will go wrong, as they sometimes do; not everything can be planned or happen as expected. At those times, instead of focusing on what has gone wrong, focus on what’s right in your life. Follow the 70-30 rule. Instead of focusing on 30% of your life which is in chaos, focus on the 70% which is a smooth sail. Don’t get stuck in a rut, it will get you nowhere.
Let me know your thoughts on this. Also, I would be happy to know how you deal with emotional upheaval.